Time can get away from all of us… That is especially true for this blog.  It was not on purpose, just a pause to accommodate life’s busy time.

Traditional Italian noodle from scratch


I was cooking earlier today and it was Italian of course.  Maybe two days ago I had come across a video online about how to make traditional spaghetti from scratch using all-purpose flour, salt, and an egg.  That’s it!  So simple yet versatile.  Every culture has a variation of the noodle because it’s the backbone of comfort food with a bit of fun.  No matter how many years pass us by, you have to admit that slurping up a noodle from your plate brings a smile to your face.  I think the noodle is a bit like an archway… Stay with me.  A noodle can support just about every meal you pair it with!  I’ve even had a cinnamon noodle dessert and it worked perfectly!  An arch can support so much weight while allowing things to pass under.

Arc de Triophe

Many countries pay homage with an arch.  the infamous Arc de Triomphe in Paris, the Forum arch of Titus in Rome, and many more.  Just like the noodle there are a variation of arches that can be used for a multitude of purposes with some built as a monument, some for bridges and other cut throughs.  Life has offered me a few practical metaphors and the arch is definitely one of them.  Whenever I look at architecture, I compare it to the human body.  Arches represent a strong pair of shoulders to me.     Whether you think of yourself as a monument to a tough life or you’re here to help others through to the other side or you’re here to support someone else, just remember it’s always important to have a strong base.  That for me is the love of my life, family and God.  Without a strong base the arch and its purpose will fall.

Full view of The Forum

Arch di Tito

The Colosseum

Entrance to Colosseum


Today I was listening to one of my Dad’s favorite songs, ‘Good Times’ by the legendary Sam Cooke.  The lyric, which is in fact the title of this post, made me think about letting go and just enjoying everything about life.  I’ve traveled all over the world, but living in another country is an entirely new eye-opening revelation.  If I sound like I am being a little dramatic, then you are following me exactly.  When I travel throughout a country, I still have in the back of my brain that the return home is inevitable.  If you are anything like me, right when you pull out of the driveway to head to the airport then you immediately say to yourself, “10 days away from home”… Or however much time you have off.  Living abroad, the sense of ‘return’ vanishes.  When I moved to Italy, I was immersed day-to-day with a foreign language and a variety of delicious exotic food.  Every single one of my senses were overloaded with an unknown world far and away from anything familiar.   Upon engaging with the Romans, I noticed that my personal space was instantly under attack!  At one point I thought they were trying to give me an Eskimo kiss by touching noses together and rubbing.  This was not the case and I eventually realized I was another typical standoffish American.  The United States is a culture of individualism, which is sometimes a fantastic characteristic, however this is not how Italy operates or any Latin culture for that matter.  While living abroad, I met more people and developed friends while out by myself than I ever have in the United States.  In America, almost all of my friends have been either introduced to me by another friend or I have met them at work.  Whether it was sparking up a conversation with people at a pizzeria, a laundry mat, or in a coffee shop, there always seemed to be another friend waiting to be discovered.

Our Roman friends that we met at the Forum in Rome, Italy

The most fascinating aspect to going out in Rome with a group of friends was to see how some Europeans would meld their groups with ours.   Our ‘Group A’ (Americans) would meet their ‘Group B’ (Italians/Spaniards/etc.) and before the end of the night everyone would have exchanged numbers and decided to meet later in the week for lunch, dinner, or coffee.  It was all for camaraderie and socializing in order to deepen one’s friend base/family.

A society of interaction was so comforting being so far from home.  I have tried to analyze why parts of Europe seem to be more of a conducive environment than America, to having an engaging conversation with strangers, but can’t put my finger on it.  Like I mentioned before, the standard arms length distance between strangers is crushed when you enter a country such as Italy.  I will admit that I felt this to be intrusive and even rude at first.  But, after I understood the spirit of Italy, I understood the connection among it’s people.  I don’t want to seem too philosophical, but having family plays such a huge part in Italian life and I believe they wanted to bring any kind soul into their ‘family’.  For example, when I am interacting with my immediate family, all rules of personal space are thrown out the window and the warmth of home, love, and closeness takes over.  I believe this is probably how a majority of the Latin cultures operate, but I can only speak for Italy.  Being able to connect with a random stranger and allowing them into your circle forces you to give them a bit of trust.  I guess I always had some sort of trust issue with strangers as many Americans do.  We were constantly told as a youngsters to, “never ever talk with strangers”, and this was undeniably great advice up to a certain age.  I carried that sense of fear of strangers into my adulthood and it thus thwarted any sort of deep interaction with a person I had only met an hour ago!  I am not saying that I now grab any stranger by the arm in Italy and say, “Brother!  How are you??  How’s about a cappuccino? Then we can go to my house for a meal!”  But letting go of that tense gait in our stance and just letting life come at you can be extremely rewarding! If living in Italy taught me anything besides how to eat like a Roman, it was to trust a little bit more, engage a little bit more, and do not be afraid to open a small aspect of your life to a stranger.  Now don’t go around yelling out your credit card number and giving copies of your passport to random people, but combine a little wisdom, with a little spontaneity.

Spending a night socializing in the square in Rome, Italy

As they say in Italy, “Chi trova un amico, trova un tesoro.”  Which means, “He who finds a friend, finds a treasure.”

I’ve always imagined a part of my brain contains an empty/full gauge when feeling the urge to lay eyes upon something my brain has not created a memory for yet.  I want to run outside and capture a new memory.  Consistency is sometimes a dreadful thing when everything in you craves for progress.  My Dad taught me a lot about embracing an ever changing environment and living like you have been there before.  What I mean is that you are not hesitant in the least bit to try or experience what is in front of you once you reach your destination.  My Dad lived in Dubai and here our desert journey began.  We interacted on different levels that were not typical for a Father and son.  We conversed about any subject that broached the edge of our minds and took the conversation wherever our curiosity drove it.  While I was attending my University in Rome, Italy, I planned to visit my Dad on a holiday week in November.  Luckily this was winter in Dubai and temperatures only reached 100 degrees fahrenheit (about 37C)… Better pack a sweater.

Once I arrived, I pushed my way through the local mix of taxi drivers; Indians, Filipinos, Arabs, and Europeans.  There was such a diversity that I never expected once arriving in an Arab country.  The United Arab Emirates was not a normal Arab country though.  There are so many levels of intrigue, adventure, and cultural diversity in this small, extravagant country.  Dubai is considered the ‘Las Vegas’ of the Middle East.  I always hated hearing that description because it is a gross over statement of this decadent city that was planned with precision.  The city hardly adorns neon lights to its buildings or prides itself on sin or welcomes wasteful spending on chance.  Dubai calls on its visitors to appreciate the opulence.  While driving through the city with the top down on the convertible, buildings of every color and shape whizzed by my line of sight; green, silver, blue.  It truly is a city that could be any architect’s muse.

Later in the week I asked my Dad what else I could experience that I’ve never done before.  We had already played golf, swam in the Persian Gulf, toured through extravagant malls of gold, and had drinks at night to soak in the glittered skyline.  My Dad looked up from his coffee and said, “The desert.. We’ll go to the desert.  The silence and sand is something you won’t be able to explain when you get back to your friends.”  I sort of laughed after hearing that statement.  How can someone not explain sand.. I’ll just show them the picture of a few dunes and I’m sure they can utilize their own brains to conjure a made up vision of a desolate desert.

We drove out of the city for about an hour or more.  The more the lines on the road passed by our spinning tires, the less it seemed like we were anywhere close to civilization.  My Dad nudged me and said that we had arrived.  I looked up and saw absolutely NOTHING!  I said, “Where?”  It’s just about all I could say.  I was in shock at the vast nothingness.  We pulled off into the sand and I felt the SUV sink into the ground.  I adjusted myself in my seat as if we were going to take on water or something.  What a strange feeling it was.  My Dad’s friends pulled up along side of us and shouted to follow straight behind in their tracks.  Driving over the mountains of sand was invigorating and in a way like floating down a river!  When our SUV stopped after about an hour of driving, the quiet crept into my body.  It’s extremely difficult to explain that sort of silence.  I could feel and SEE the silence.  It was as if someone had put those noise canceling head phones on my head and held them tightly against the sides of my face.  Someone spoke and it cut through the silence.  As my Dad and I walked away from the group, he looked over as I squinted through the desert sun and just smiled.  I wanted to say something to him about all the experiences he has given me, but I thought a smile was enough.  He gave me that Fatherly side hug and said, “Glad you came.  It feels like home when we’re together.”  At that moment two camels came walking over the ridge of the dune and slowly lurked passed us.  One was larger than the other and in my mind I labeled them father and son.  Those camels sort of explain my relationship with my Dad in that we wandered life’s tragedies, rewards, and experiences together.  It was silent sometimes, but we loved the feeling of togetherness.  A walk through life’s deserts provides a connection between two individuals more so than times of joy.  Being able to walk along somebody and know you can count on them to be by your side in especially difficult times is a gift no one can replicate.  He passed away last summer and I miss him more than I can put into words.  It was his birthday yesterday.  Happy Birthday Dad.

My Dad and I found something sweet out there.  I describe it as, ‘Our dessert in the desert.’

Sao Paulo with my love

Traveling has always been something that I turned to in time of need.  I always felt a sense of tranquility at the airport watching each person glide past my horizon of sight.  Sitting down in that overused airline seat that had the feel of your grandmother’s oldest, stiffest, upholstered chair somehow felt inviting to me.  It was a discomfort that became comforting.  The only way I can think of to explain it is by relating it to running… Yes, running.  When you first begin a regimen of daily running, your body starts to rebel against this new mobile activity.  The next day your muscles ache and the farthest thing from your mind is to don your running shoes once again to go for a jog.  But, once you have developed your routine, you crave the soreness.  Just a little soreness, not the debilitating kind.  A little soreness to let you savor the progress you are making.  This is the way I felt about an airline seat.  It is crazy, I know, but we all have an oddity that comforts our soul.

However, this trip was different.  I reclined in seat number 23E and my anxiety was still there.  I popped on my earbuds to play a few electronic lounge hits in order to drown out this annoyance.  The trick had no success.  I was on my way to Sao Paulo, Brasil to meet a girl I had met online almost a year ago.  When I bought the ticket I had no worries whatsoever.  But, once again, being in the face of fire the anxiety rolled back in.  The whole flight was uneventful… Movie, water, soda, food, bathroom, movie, game, book, food,water…  Suddenly, I felt the plane make its descent and the intercom chirped on with the pilot requesting for everyone to secure their tray tables, fasten their seat belts, and prepare for landing.  The adrenaline started pumping through my body and I began to rehearse a few lines of dialogue in my head to amuse the girl when I was face to face with her for the first time.  I started walking towards customs and saw a long line.  Relief flowed over me.  I had bought myself 30 more minutes.  I felt like a kid trying to work up the courage to ask a girl in his class to dance at the first dance of the year.  As soon as I emerged from the security gate, I saw one of the most beautiful girls I have ever laid eyes on.  She had a green dress, tan skin, long dark hair, and the widest smile.  I felt comfortable in a matter of seconds as she grabbed my hand to direct us to a small restaurant in the airport.

I have always been enthralled with exploring different nooks and spots in a variety of cities all over the globe where I feel like I have truly discovered tranquility.  International travel has always taken me to places of discovery but, she is the most incredible find of all my discoveries.  It took one year for us to meet, but it was worth every month, day, hour, minute, second that I had waited.  We traveled together for 10 days through her city of São Paulo and ventured over to Guarujá to swim in the ocean.

I visited her again during Easter.  She visited me in the summer and again during Christmas.  I recently returned to be with her during Carnaval in São Paulo.  Looking back over the past two years it seems as if everything has gone so smoothly.  Yes, in the beginning it was very hard to pursue a long distance relationship such as this one.  But when you find love, everything seems possible.  We are now engaged and looking forward to being together forever.  Travel helped me find the love of my life.

And so it begins…

Of course I had been on a trip outside my own state before; family vacations to Florida, visiting relatives in DC.  But this was huge…  I had just purchased a ticket to Germany at the age of 15 to visit one of my brothers in Heidelberg.  The thought of flying never frightened me nor did experiencing a whole new culture.  My father was an international businessman and introduced us to outside cultures with the occasional visit from foreign customers into our home.  So all the brothers were taught a bit of savoir faire when faced with a variety of cultures.  But I had just booked a ticket with a connecting flight in Paris, France and I had never been in a foreign country before.  For me, the actual lead up to a situation never phases me.  It’s as if I am formulating a plan for someone other than myself.  However, once the event arrives, my anxiety rushes over me like a waterfall.  I did not sleep a wink on the flight from Atlanta to Paris…  My heart was pumping as the plane pulled into the gate.  Once I stepped off the plane into Charles de Gaulle airport a sense of tranquility poured over me.  It was as if my skin was frozen with goose pimples and all, then I was dunked into the most amazing jacuzzi bath.  When you experience for the first time a complete sense of perpetual relief, it’s extremely emotional.  I walked around the airport in a daze like I finally took off my backpack of detriment & was endowed with equanimity.

This lasted all but 10 minutes when I heard someone from my connecting flight utter the words, “this isn’t the right terminal…”  I looked at my connecting flight ticket and realized he was correct.  I looked at him with disdain because he had taken my new-found zeal for life and stomped it back into my bag of fears.  Remember I was only 15 in a country not my own..  So I walked up to a few people who worked at the airport and asked where the bus terminals were for the connecting flights.  He looked at me and said in perfect english, “Sorry boy, I do not speak english.”  His statement snapped me out of my haze.  I do not know why or what prompted me to do so, but I started walking with purpose and a renewed outlook on this trip.  Maybe the frenchman’s poor attitude was a mirror into myself.  I was reluctant to help myself, hesitant to engulf myself in the surroundings, and tentative about embracing the unfamiliar.  Walking outside felt invigorating.  My perception sharpened and I saw my bus.  I stepped aboard and felt as if I had grown a little taller, maybe a little broader in the shoulders.  I was not bound by my parents, family, or friends from home.  It was time to truly become the person I wanted to be.

This was my first step into the unknown.  I had a bag full of fears which was left at the entrance of that terminal bus.  I arrived in Germany and my ears were filled with the sound of foreign languages; some German and some I had never heard.  I smelled things I had never smelled before, saw ornate buildings which were older than my country, and gradually found my confidence in the midst of taking risks.

This quote seems incredible fitting;  “Curiosity will conquer fear even more than bravery will.” – James Stephens

Curiosity will conquer fear even more than bravery will. James Stephens

Life is a Pisa cake... Get it? Piece of Cake... Yeah that was bad.

This blog, more or less, is an ode to life’s grandeur.  Lately, life has begun to speed up and it has decided to give me more chances than I ever thought possible.  Thus the title of my blog, ‘Dream This Life’.  Growing up, I lived in an upper middle class home with 3 older brothers when suddenly, like most couples in the 90s, our parents divorced.  Certain events took place that devastated my self-esteem / self-worth, which was challenging to overcome.  Some people deal with emotional challenges in life with a variety of solutions; however my solution entailed a global expedition that started when I was 14.

The purpose of travelling and conquering the globe, so to speak, was not to prove my independence as a boy wanting to become a MAN, but to open my eyes to other cultures and thoughts of positivity.  Before the leap into the unkown, I was a teenager stuck in the southern United States micro-managing my entire family’s problems.  Each little tiny bit of grief was scrutinized in my young brain.  There came a point when analyzing and peacemaking no longer held things together for me.  There came a time when I opened a book full of photos from around the world and felt happy again.  I felt at ease thinking about absolute tranquility discovering new scenery and images face to face that were otherwise locked in the pages of this book.

Life has challenges for everyone, but there are a few things we all desire to make the journey comfortable…  In this blog I’ll talk about all the lessons I am learning from these travels.

Dream this life.